Tips on How to Conceive a Baby Boy
If you think there are tricks to getting your precious little newborn onto a routine, strategies to get them sleeping more at night, or tips to feeding on a schedule, then we are about to let you in on something: there are no shortcuts in the newborn stage.
Newborns are completely instinctual and unpredictable. They feed regularly because their tummies are tiny, and they sleep when they’re tired – day and night. Forget looking at the clock. Your baby has been in the womb for nine months, and day and night means nothing to them. That’s something you can work on later, but for now, your baby will typically sleep and feed around the clock. You need to adapt to them, rather than the other way around.
If you think that doing the ‘right’ things will help your baby sleep through the night, ditch that thought. Do whatever it takes to get your baby to sleep, and feed them when they need feeding. Follow your own instincts, and parent from the heart.
Once you realise that there’s very little you can do to change the nature of a newborn, this knowledge will hopefully be a sweet relief to you. Any frustration or pressure you put on yourself to have a ‘good’ sleeper will also be unrealistic (and unfair) pressure you’re putting on your baby.
Every baby and mother is so different, so don’t compare yourself and your baby to others. Spend the time instead figuring it all out together, trying to stay in tune with your baby and providing what they need. Some days that just means holding them.
Feed your baby on demand. You can space your baby’s feeds at consistent intervals and offer full feeds, but always be sensitive to growth spurts, developmental leaps (or wonder weeks), and cluster feeding periods. Don’t let your baby scream for food just because it’s ‘not time yet’, but rather find a consistent interval that’s attainable for your baby, ensuring that they’re full feeds as much as you can to avoid ‘snacking’.
Newborns change on a daily basis, and it’s important to be sensitive to your baby’s changing emotional and physical needs. The fourth trimester is the idea that babies are born too soon, and that there’s a critical period of adjustment to life outside the womb. Read here about this stage from your baby’s perspective, and how you can help them through it.