You’re not failing motherhood. You’re parenting during a crisis

Even if you’re relatively untouched by the pandemic where you live, you can’t be oblivious to the impact of it on people around the world. Absorbing the stress and anxiety of this never-ending crisis takes its toll in invisible and unconscious ways. These aren’t normal times.

Yes, of course you love your family, and of course you’re grateful, but parenting during traumatic times means that you’re not always going to be blissful and positive about your life. You’ll feel many other feelings, and with that can come guilt.

Mumma, it’s okay to have those feelings. Drop the guilt. You’re allowed to feel. Motherhood is unbelievably hard.

You might feel like you’re parenting on an island but you’re not alone.

We’re here to reassure you that you’re not a bad mum, you’re not failing…

  • If you feel touched out and you constantly dream of having some time alone.
  • If you want to run away. Far, far away.
  • If some days you have next to no patience and you’ve had enough of everyone’s demands.
  • You’re running on next to no sleep and you feel like you’re dropping balls everywhere.
  • For watching the clock and counting down the hours until bedtime or when your partner gets home.
  • For feelings of anger that you have no support, or feelings of envy or resentment of other families who do have it.
  • If you sometimes wished your baby or toddler would grow up quickly so they would be less dependent on you.
  • For ordering a takeaway for the fourth time this week or going through the drive-thru or serving the same meal nearly every day.
  • For sitting on the couch and Netflix bingeing in your PJs all day while you cuddle your baby or watch them play on the floor at your feet.
  • For letting the housework go because you can’t face another day of domestic Groundhog Day.
  • If you decide to put your child into childcare for your own mental health and look forward to those days.
  • If you have very little left in your tank and you struggle to feel positive and grateful.
  • If you’re tired from coming up with all the fun activities to do when you’re stuck at home, and to be honest, you have no ‘play’ left in you, so you put Cocomelon on for hours straight.
  • If you’re really sick of the mental load being put on your shoulders alone.
  • If you just feel done with it all and you’re at your wit’s end…

 

You’re not a bad mum. You’re parenting during a crisis, and so are all the parents you know. It’s not just you. You’re allowed to have feelings. You’re not invisible. You’re seen, heard, and valid. For the mums who are isolating with their little ones right now, we feel for you.

This is a season of motherhood during a very long period of distress, uncertainty, illness, isolation, and fear. Breathe, mumma, you’re doing the best you can under these impossible circumstances. We’re right there with you.

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